
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. -Wayne Dyer
I've just deactivated my Facebook account. Yes I did, like half an hour ago. I don't know why I feel so relieved after doing it... Maybe I sense a bit of freedom air? All this time, Facebook helps. A lot. Just like the other social networking tools, it brought me updates from friends, greetings from old companions, news and issues from the political stage progress, offers from online shops and many many other things. But I just need more space to reconcilliate with myself. To be alone and have this so-called quality time with the sould inside my corpus. Am I weird or greed? Weird for loving the romantism of loneliness, or greed for possesing myself all alone. I always feel like making barriers and walls around myself - I don't want to be always exist.
On me : Black Lace Top - vintage, Black skirt : Rampage, Black Lace Cardigan : vintage, wooden slingback shoes : Chrissie, Pearl necklace with bow : Handmade, Carpet Chain Bag : self-designed, Sheer Black Tights : Socksdream, Bow Headband : Handmade, Glasses : random.
Some people I know will be freaking out when their existence meter jump off low, but me, in the contrary, always pull off myself few steps backward everytime I aware that I've been too socialized. Virtually, I regularly dissapearing from all my accounts - just for awhile until I consider the hiatus is enough. And in the real world, I skipped some classes and refused to join several gatherings with my bestfriends... mostly for sitting alone in the corner of my bedroom, reading books and drink coffee (it's tea latte now, since coffee could jeopardized my health again) or walking somewhere with my dogs. This time I'm not going anywhere, since now I'm still flirting with my computer... But at least I have more space in my mind - the space that was belong to the Facebook-ing routines.

excuse the minor quality photos... i still haven't got my 500D yet, damned the slow reparation services.
And by the way, I just got an SMS from a friend who said that he also do the same M.I.A. on his most stressful days. This make me wonder, is there anyone of you do the same thing like what we do? Or probably have some reasons why you choose to make or make not any online account on the social networking village? Because it will be interesting to know other people who ever feel the similar way.

I forgot to mention the rings : left is a vintage button ring; a handmade, and the rose ring is from Phie.
Eerr, before I forget, congratulations for our blogger fellow Phie for her new online shop, Phie Garage. I've just been told about this, and decided to share this if you wanna know... because she also held her first giveaway too! Win a pearl necklace and fancy ribbon ring there - change your luck! I'm going to meet a friend from Adelaide this evening, so I better get prepared. Meet-up with online pals is always loving, don't you think so? For the same reason I can't wait for my little meet-up with Eva from Crunchy Cheese Me. This lovely girl is going to my town and I really looking forward to talk with her. She just had an ended relationship, I just found out, but from the way she wrote about the story, I give her kudos. She's a tough little baby. You should know that you are loved. Just like you, everyone passes this sentences, please remember that you are always - and most deserved to be - loved.
<3

Lovely pictures!!
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I love everything about this outfit, the bows and black lace look so romantic and whimsical...
ReplyDeleteAnd I can understand you doing an MIA, I do it on my MSN a lot when I can't be bothered having 5 different conversations at once, and always after a big night out I come home and don't txt, FaceBook, msn, or anything. There is nothing quite like alone time with a cup of tea and a good book after a busy social venture :)
xxx
Harlow
I've been there Clara, deactivated my fb account, and it was ridiculously relieving!! but my psychiatrist [yes i have one, i'm sorry i'm a freak] said it was one of depression signs, since I was in condition which made me prone to depression. so i gathered all the strength and signed back in. but i hope you did that for the sake of romantism in loneliness like you've said , not because you're afraid of meeting people like i did.
ReplyDeleteanw you look gorgeous in that wardrobe, i thought you lived in Paris for a second, lol
I can totally understand your decision, I'm taking a hiatus on facebook too, just to give myself time to devote myself to the things I enjoy such as blogging, reading, knitting and spending quality time with people around me :)
ReplyDeleteNadia : Thank you love!
ReplyDeleteHarlow : Oh sweetpie, MSN can be disaster too sometime - esp. the fact that i always need to type all my assignment on the computer and the chatbox are always popped out every few second, that's irritating your concentration. And yes, definitely book and tea is a good combo for a relaxation ! xxx :)
zeina : Oh dear, you make me wondering if deactivating my Fb is actually a symptom of depression too? I'm also another freak next door, I presume. LOL. But really, the Fb routines could lead you to some strange level of boredom and stress... And btw, I wished I live in Paris too! But yeah, reality is dissapointing sometimes :)
Eunice : Agree! Spending quality time with the ones we love is getting hard these days, isnt it? :))
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ReplyDeleteLovely to see another lovely post from you. Although it did make me feel a little sad and worried for you...deactivating facebook, not going to class and cancelling things with friends...I just know a family member of mine suffered from depression resulting in those type of things, so just look after yourself and know that there are always people in your life to talk to (friends and family).
Besides all that, I was happy to see your lovely photos with your gorgeous outfit and that pretty bag :)
Take care
Rose
oh dear! you look more skinny.. kurus bgt jdny! krn pake item it..
ReplyDeletetp as usual and always, i like your photos... always inspiring me dear! :)
haa,,about deactive facebook acc, yeah! i just feel better too much, after (almost) 2weeks without that soc network.. dunno why, but i think fb've much more (-) values than (+),,
and very surprise for me dear, that you know about my OL shop..
cb mnawarkan DIY project ku aj sih.. kpn OL shop km bk ny? aq ga sbar lo,,:D
thanks for sharing my giveaway too dear! just join it too.. tp btw, km dh puny pearl bow necklace gt n lbh bgus jg,,huaa.. aq mang perlu byk blajar dr km deh sptny.. :D
hardly cann't wait to the next meet-up, with Silvi and i wish you also tell about it to Marla from Versicle y dear,,wanna meet her too! :D
miss you love!
phie-emotions.
Rose : Oh sweetheart, I'm not depressed or having some sort of disorder... I just want to have sometime alone. We always can reactivated the account anytime, so this is only a short break from the social networking. Thank you so much for being care! I really, really heart you :)
ReplyDeletePhie : aww your always welcome baby! Gudluck for the online shop... Mine is still in progress :D Well, I'm gonna miss my fb friends definitely, but I don't wanna have a rigid life that determined by my facebook-ing frequencies, so for now, I know this is a right decision... Until I don't know when :))
Sometimes I feel that way too. When everything on the internet screws me up, maybe it's just the rite time to get it all away and suffer in silence. so, is this the reason that you were all alone at Starbucks yesterday, sweetheart?
ReplyDeleteanyway, this is one of my fave look! adorable yet mysterious chic <33
ps. can't wait to meet you again and eva xD
Yeay kak devi, really glad to know that you also dropped comment on my previous post about my break-up news huhu. It's kinda hard to be forgot :( but i have to move on!
ReplyDeleteLove love the pictures in this post. Where did the pic take place kak?
I can't hardly wait to meet you too :)) *smooch
Congratulations! If I didn't need the Facebook account for my business, I'd be off there as well. Such lovely pictures!
ReplyDelete:) totally understand how you feel/what you mean. time is so so precious! quality time with family, friends, loved ones face to face means so much more. kudos to you! (: you rock. wooot!
ReplyDeletesuper-love your whole outfit!!
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ReplyDeleteI definitely know what you mean about taking a break. I really like your blog and your outfits, especially the white flower ring!
ReplyDeletei love the glasses and the dress
ReplyDeletelovely outfit dear<3
Love these photos!! your outfit is so cute!! love the bows and your glasses our lust worthy!! i want a pair like them for myself!
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gorgeous pictures and outfit <3
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The background & dress are so pretty!
ReplyDeleteAnd I've been thinking about deleting my facebook, too. Might have to take your lead ;)
Lovely outfit and photos. I think sometimes everybody needs a bit of alone time. Just to focus on themselves without the distractions that a wider social circle may bring :)
ReplyDeleteI did the same with my facebook since last year. I didn't like how I was obsessed with checking it more than once a day. It took up a lot of time. I deactivate it while school is in session. When the semester is done, that's when I log back in again.
ReplyDeleteBy the way, I love that black bow on your head. At first I only saw the one on the necklace but yeah...it blended! lol. I'm also a little jealous with your weather. It's windy and snowing right now.
i was just thinking about this persistent theory in my head about why i (also) tend to put up walls around me and not get too attached to people in general. i think i could be right and i wonder if i'll ever get out of that funk... it's unnatural to want to deliberately withdraw from people, no matter how i convince myself that it's better for me this way. i do want to be able to relate with people. i'm just not sure i have anything to offer to them.
ReplyDeleteLovely post Clara!
ReplyDeleteYou have just the cutest outfits, I love the bow headband and the bow on your necklace. Great rings too, especially the button one!
I completely understand the need to be alone sometimes, as must as I love being with my friends I sometimes feel the need to just stay home and have some time alone. I've often thought of getting rid of my Facebook account too if it weren't such a good tool for staying in touch with people I would have long ago.
Hope you're having a lovely week :)
great photos, love ur lace dress and ur so stunning!
ReplyDeleteI don't like being skinny girl, I want gain so kilograms, but Im always failed :(
xxx
Alone but no loner...
ReplyDeleteGoodluck Devi...
I think it's important to be comfortable with being alone and have time to sit quietly with your thoughts and emotions... a Facebook break sounds like a good idea. I probably spend a lot more time on Twitter and FB than I know!
ReplyDeleteYou look beautiful in these photos. I love your accessories and bag!
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what a lovely picture..and your style is so pretty.
ReplyDeleteMy first time over here.... I seem to track a certain style in your photography and I love it. Can't describe just yet what it is I love, I just do. Hopefully one day, I will have found my own style!
ReplyDeleteTruly adorable
ReplyDeleteI love the dress!
And the necklace.
And the bag.
And the woods! :)
I've just discovered your blog and I love it!
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nice photos...
ReplyDeletelurve the lace dress u wear..
where did u take that photos?
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Hello sweetie.
ReplyDeleteI am so happy to see an outfit post.You like so sweet.I love the nail polish, by the way...
About the M.I.A., i totally understand you.I have my moments too.That can last for days...too many sometimes.So do not worry about this phase, it will come and go.However, it is quite great sometimes.Just me and a book...just like you said.I got to love those moments when it's just me.Have fun meeting with the girls...
Take care!
depooooy..I miss youu sweetheart!!!! :) :)
ReplyDeleteyou look totally gorgeous there!! love the lace cardi and dress!!
and your DIY necklace is just soo cute..never thought to add some bow on pearl necklace!!
really want to meet you again..can't wait until june or july when you come to jakarta.we MUST meet up again :D..
I prefer AWOL: absent without.. what the OL's stands again..?
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