November 15, 2011

Your Own Mirror


does mirror lie? - photography nico wijaya

I've been thinking a lot about my passions lately and suddenly today I got some surprising news from a fellow blogger that there's somebody who duplicate my blog in another address, along with the banner and all of my photos, and separated posts. She changed my name into hers and even changed my boyfriend's name, the place where I live, my photographer's name and else. It really wasn't a feel of anger that came in my mind, but a tickle of amused, funny feelings. I thought it was ridiculous that she even impersonated my Facebook account and twitter under her name, even also bothered herself to display all of my sponsor on the sidebar. She really copied almost everything. I talked with some friends and I tweeted about it as well, telling people not to be confused with this fake account because she (or he? well, somebody then) often visiting other blogs and leaving comments. Suddenly I received huge response from my followers and friends telling me how I should better report this person, and that I don't have to be worried because I've got their supports... My heart felt warm and I was overwhelmed in that circle of affection. Most of them are my readers, and despite the fact that we basically are strangers, I really feel like knowing these people and hoping for the returning good karma as a retaliation of their kindness (thank you, so much, everyone of you!). 

Beside, remembering about how funny it is to have somebody that pretend to be me, I suddenly gather a strange sensation of pity - this person, could have some bad experience in life that makes her hating her own self. If we love ourselves enough, why would we waste our time to copy other people? And, in other side, why should we claim other's pictures and words as our creation? To impress people? To be satisfied of getting other's adoration for being somebody else but ourselves? What it's all about is more than lie - it's a lie to your own self, and it's just the worse among all.

I don't have a perfect life even I have the so-called pretty pictures. On my twitter timeline you will find how I have to deal through failures, broken-hearts, past memories, family troubles, backstabbers, fake friends, punishments, hard-revising thesis. I don't mind being as pretty as Zooey Deschanel or as stylish as Alexa Chung, for instance, but it never guarantee that I will be a happy person being them. So I am happy to be me, never less than I am happy for Zooey or Alexa for being themselves. And the only way to pursue happiness is by first of all recognizing who you are. You are your only true friend, so get to know yourself well and start to love any bits of it. I don't know who and what happened behind this person who copied myself, but I really hope that she read this post and knows that I don't hate her for being me. I might hate her for not loving herself instead. I always believe that God creates us with a special message within, and this life is somehow our journey to find that messages hidden inside ourselves by seeing our reflections in others. The way we make relationship with our family, our friends, our society - those all lead to somewhere inside our soul, because actually this life will be a big nonsense when we never try to connect the world with ourselves.  

So whoever you are, out there, I really hope you'll find a way to embrace your unique self and love it at the very maximum extent... People around you is just a pseudo-reflections and the strongest one comes from your own mirror - Yourself is your very true reflection. :)

One of my favorite line from my fellow blogger Diana : Be 100% original. We can!

29 comments:

  1. i have read the blog and all that i can say is oh my god kasian. menurutku mungkin dia mengagumimu lebih daripada mengagumi dirinya sendiri. well-aku juga sih--tapi untuk mengcopy everything, kayaknya dia punya masalah terhadap aktualisasi diri. aku--yang jelek dan gendut dan biasa ini--masih berani kok ngepost poto-poto aku sendiri walaupun dengan pertimbangan selama dua tahun *sigh* tapi yg jelas, you are adorable.

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  2. dian ajeng : you are beautiful. me love you :)

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  3. Poor her...
    Me? I adore you so much, but I never think to be a copycat. I'm happy and proud to be myself with all of my strengths and weaknesses.
    "I might hate her for not loving herself instead" << agree with you and you're so sweet dear.. :)
    In my opinion, you'll never get true happiness when you trying to be someone. Just be yourself, be happy and proud. :)
    Cheer up pretty! Me love you always! :*
    xoxo

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  4. clara, aku cuma bisa bilang yg tabah ya..bener kata dian dia kagum sama kamu. kamu memang cantik,berbakat dan manis.satu hal yg mgkn km bisa lakukan yaitu : jangan menganggap keberadaan "si palsu" krn semakin km mikirin km pasti makin sedih,kesel dan kecewa.. i konw you can clara, sabar ya :)

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  5. Agree!One of the greatest thing in the word is happy for being yourself =]

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  6. you are so kind clara, I agree that we shouldn't have to angry or hate her/him. I hope she/he read this post so that she/he can learn how to being herself/himself.

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  7. i know this news from your twitter..let the person who admired you do what they want, someday they'll feel what they're doing it wrong.. jadi terkenal emang susah yaa (untung aku ga, hahaa), fans duplikat dimana-mana hehee..

    kok sama yaa yang dikatain dian ajeng maharani. "aku--yang jelek dan gendut dan biasa ini--masih berani kok ngepost poto-poto aku sendiri" setuju banget dehhhhh..

    oteteot

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  8. u are so nice. agree with your opinion, people have to love themselves and find out the meaning of life even how to connect with the world.

    I read your blog since these few days, at first i was impressed with the fashion style and pictures .So i would like to ask a question that why it don't have blog archive so that we can be more convenient while reading all of your post from the early post =)

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  9. Omg. I read the copycat blog. What's wrong with her/him? Ckck. The fake one will vanish sooner or later. Stay sharing with us :)

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  10. i hope somebody could bitchslap her back to reality. anyway i love how mature your response is to this matter. God be with you darling.

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  11. only one word can judge to her/him "psychopaths".
    hehe :p

    i'm one of u're followers pretty *br skrg kasih komen :P
    i'm pretty photo-lover :)

    i'm starting to follow u since i see u on dianarikasari post.
    like i was said. i'm a pretty photo lover. and ur blog both is full of pretty photo ^^

    salam kenal

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  12. but you are pretty and stylish like zooey and alexa! :D
    anyways, it's a pity that somebody did that to you. but that means you're so gorgeous that somebody would've want to copy you :)

    xx,
    Alviana

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  13. I think it's because she or he adore u so much... <3

    Xoxo
    Http://fuschia-life.blogspot.com

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  14. Oh... i've read the blog, and of course yours ... and I saw your picture on the blog it all..I think he/she/somebody was admired, but the way he/she admired is wrong..
    I do admired u and all of ur blog very very much, but nothing occurred to me to do that, because I really respect you and admire you..
    I also believe in karma, and I'm sure he/she'll get it..
    :-*

    big love
    kiddieelf.blogspot.com

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  15. Awww, we love you too! :D *hugs*

    About that, I'm not mad at her too, I just don't like the way she took your posts and changed it to her liking. Either she's really unconfident about herself or she admires you so much to an alarming degree, only she knows.
    Everyone gets insecure at times, but we all have our ways to get it better. We should embrace what we have and improve it until it became something unique and special only we have.

    I'm hugging you tighter now. Some breathing aid might help.

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  16. i have no idea why some people do this kind of thing, maybe she is too obsessed with you, kamu cantik sihhh :) hehehe.

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  17. what's wrong with people nowadays ya! but no matter what happens, you'll always have my support! I love you! <3


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  18. I adore you for having a big heart! masih bisa empati sama orang kyk gini. bingung juga sih ya jadinya mau komentar apa. abis dia sebegitu pengen punya kehidupan orang lain. copy paste foto is one thing, tapi copy paste the whole blog? ckck.. So I couldn't agree more with what your saying (dia ga suka sm dirinya sendiri) & dian ajeng's. You are adorable. :)

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  19. coco chanel said: imitation is the highest form of flaterry! ;;)

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  20. You're a kind soul for not doing what most people would do in your situation, i.e. get angry and report like crazy to the officials, instead you took a breath and tried to understand the situation. I really like that, reading this post has really got me thinking about how I can become better version of myself, and not of others. xox

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  21. Well, let's take the positive side that she adores you a lot. like meeeee, clayaaaa! I wasn't surprised that person could do that to you, because you're such an adorable lovable lady :)

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  22. saya selalu kagum sama orang yang masih bisa wise mengenai hal seperti ini. jarang banget apalagi ini hampir semuanya dicopy...dan ini adalah plagiat paling niat yang pernah saya tahu. ahh clara kweyeeen... ^^

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  23. you know what i will say about this. you know that we both are always whoever we are! ;) you know that i'm who i am and you're who you are. for me i think that person is in a need of attention and wants to feel good by getting that "fake" attention towards her since it's not really her.

    well, i've never hated my fakers unless they do shits with my thing. nevertheless, humans are never satisfied with what they've got, me too, still learning like a pupa! trying to be a butterfly. so i have to stay inside the ball, transforming my negative sides into beautiful faces. :)

    michellehendra.com
    xx

    p.s: good to know you're really active these days! ;) you made my day!

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  24. i find that really scary and that person is so immorale to do behave and do such low actions.

    But you are a great sport and i respect how you handle this calmly without even snapping on it . IF it happened to me i would have gone crazy and cursing that person like mad.

    I hope all will be well soon , you should really report that faker.

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  25. yea, i always love being my self (sometimes too much)

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  26. GIVE AWAY JCSHOES : THE LITA ON MY BLOG !!!!

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  27. she does have problem among herself, lack of confidence i thought. or just trying to find attention to make 'herself' famous. be patient kak :)

    http://mithakomala.blogspot.com/

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  28. you are rite. when i look at your pretty pictures and your pretty self , i do think that you do have a pretty life. Thanks for the wise write up. You did not respond with hate but sympathy. You have so much love and i salute you for that.

    diysuzsuz.blogspot.com

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